We are excited to discover that our anti-ageist birthday card campaign has cousin in the UK. The Centre for Policy on Ageing (CPA), in collaboration with WIGS and Danger Doodles, is working to address ageism in all age groups by producing birthday cards that celebrate aging.

The campaign aims to produce images for everyone, acknowledging that we learn to be ageist at a very early age. Ageist views become internalized early, meaning that we hold those negative and inaccurate views even against ourselves. As we know, ageism, internalized or otherwise, is not limited to one country or culture.

We are happy to share our efforts and hopefully increase the awareness that we have to start thinking differently about aging, no matter our age. Read on to hear about the UK campaign and their thoughts about why birthday cards are an important tool in the fight against ageism.

 

A make-over for your next birthday (card)

A creative collaboration between CPA, WIGS and Danger Doodles
Written by Hannah McDowall (WIGS) & Dave Martin (CPA)

How are you feeling about your next birthday?

Once past the jelly and musical statues stage it gets complicated doesn’t it. Whilst being alive is (mostly) good, getting closer to death carries the tang of fear. For before the big death there are many ‘mini-deaths’ to get through; the end of primary school, the end of being ‘young’ (turning 30 can be a particular crisis moment) the end of fertility, the end of having children at home, the loss of parents, the loss of a sense of endless possibilities, and so on. These are legitimate feelings. Loss brings grief. But loss also creates fallow space in our lives into which something new will come. Both are true. The challenge is to carry them both well, acknowledging what has been lost and welcoming what is arriving. And for that we need sufficient hope that new life is coming even if we don’t know in what form it comes.

One of the things that accompanies us in the movement from loss to new-arriving is the implicit and explicit culture of anti-ageing we live in. We learn, as small children, to become ageist (about ourselves, let alone other people) from family and friends, and are constantly told through advertising, culture and politics that to be young is good and to get old is not, that to age is to decline, is to ‘lose’ youth, vigour and opportunity. Just start looking and you’ll see it everywhere.

How might our anti-aging culture arrest our hopeful movement to where new life may be arising for us at any age? A fair bit it seems. Having a negative attitude towards your own ageing takes 7.5 years on average off your life expectancy compared to those who are more positive, and persistent messaging about loss of health, social connection, mobility and income experienced in later life (none of which are inevitable) doesn’t bring hope . But back to birthdays.

Birthday cards are one place where we see a spark of recognition that having a past, present and future brings complicated feelings including a sense of loss. We say spark, but maybe a fizzle is more truthful, because this recognition can become so mangled by our anti-aging culture that the hope and newness present across our lives gets rinsed out, as if we each have an allocation which runs dryer and dryer, like a fading battery, as our life progresses. Which is utter nonsense.

There are cards for sale which mock people and their age, that commiserate and pity or try to help hide, or pretend it’s not so bad, suggest that drowning your sorrows is a good way forward or deny it’s really happening for ‘there’s still life in the old dog yet’ etc. You probably know exactly what I am talking about, google ‘old age funny cards’ and you will get an eyeful.

And we still feel obliged to be complicit in tittering, and so accept this abuse. Such cards ask us to simultaneously agree with the embarrassment and misery of getting older, whilst also putting our best foot forward and clinging to youth for all we are worth (I mean, just look at those Hollywood stars in their 60s!). But of course we can’t cling on, so we have failed, and next birthday we will have failed a bit more (enter another round of life-deriding birthday cards).

Although we may see these cards as just a bit of fun which shouldn’t be taken seriously, they are serious, for they express the social agreement that ageing is bad and all about loss. In reality they are a cry for help, they say ‘We are scared of loss and we don’t know what to do’.

It is a massive job to unpick the cultural narrative that getting old is bad. Because we start believing it so early (as young as 4) , the unpicking needs to start early too. Trying to mop up the mess with ‘be positive’ anti-ageism messaging to the 50+ is just too late, we are well and truly practiced in denying and indulging our age-related fears by then.

But birthday cards offer a playful and creative place to start.

What would a hope-inspiring birthday card, which also speaks to the experience of ageing, look like?

Well first of all it needs to be nice, beautiful or funny. Nobody wants to give or receive a birthday card that is an educational lecture on positive ageing. Secondly it needs to be for everyone, not a special ‘chin-up’ card for older people, as being targets, even for positive messages, just reinforces the same problem (ie. old = bad, therefore you need some extra cheer via this card). So the card must be for people of all and any age. Third, it needs to directly speak to the experience of ageing or challenge fearful attitudes towards ageing, rather than being ‘ageing-neutral’ as the millions of cards which carry a nice picture and blank inside already do perfectly well. That’s the design brief we set ourselves.

Working with professional doodler Jen Harding of Danger Doodles, we have now developed our first three designs. It has been humbling and enlivening to explore images and words together, the brief has prompted us to think very deeply about what we are saying and showing how it might land for different ages.

From October 1st 2020 you can join us in celebrating ageing across the lifecourse by purchasing these cards, whether you are buying a card for a 3-year-old or 80-year-old. We hope these card designs offer a spark of hope and insight for the year to come. You can pre-order them now from the danger doodles website – just click on the images below. But they will not arrive immediately as we will be printing at the end of October so are likely to arrive with you in early to mid November. (Please note: Not available for sale outside of the UK.)

If this discussion has got your own creative juices running we are running an online workshop to chat it over and think about some new designs on Thursday 8th October at 2pm and please do register HERE.

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See below the current selection (click on the picture to see more) and link to website: https://dangerdoodles.com